Monday moan …

March 18, 2012 in Vegetarian & vegetable dishes

Sometime after nine this morning I met a neighbour in the garage. She was coming in with a full bag of groceries and I was on my way to get one filled.  We exchanged greetings and enquired after each other’s wellbeing. She  bemoaned the fact that she has to cook on such a beautiful day and I tried to make her feel better by saying I have to work on this day. We laughed, gave each other an honest hug  and each went our way.

Later, back home, as the breeze from the sea carried a tantalizing whiff of her garlicy-roast into my lounge I suddenly felt a little lonely and sorry for myself. So I thought I’d see what my friends are doing on Facebook … and for a moment in time, I made one of those instant, knee-jerk reaction decisions that we often regret or rejoice down the line: I immediately unfriended two ‘friends’ and posted the following message: “Unfortunately I have had to  unfriend two ‘friends’ today who has obviously ‘befriended’ me so that I can be on their database of potential customers. Nee maatjies, ek wil nie daai game speel nie. Dus, koebaai! No hard feelings en alle sukses met julle sales campaigns. If you one day find yourself wondering how I am and want so share some real honest-to-God friendship, call me.”

And how liberating that was! I have been glad I did it since then and will probably now continue to unfriend those who take advantage of this supposed-to-be-benign platform to seek money or self-promotion or sales or make self-propaganda or political or religeous propaganda. I do not think it smart, or fair or kind or true to make friends online with the intention of selling them stuff or making them believe in your beliefs or values and that, dear friends, is why I did it.

The one friend that was unfriended has a spa and I am now detoxed of her special waxing and other offers. The other was a restaurant owner who I do not know from a bar of soap but he requested a friendship and I was so  flattered that I accepted but all he does is marketing his restaurant on my Facebook.

And BTW, I do know that one can hide posts but some folk refuse to stay hidden – those with an enormous capacity for attention and success and they find their way back onto your Facebook. Paranoia? I dunno, I swear one of the abovementioned was hidden and came back. I swear …

Anyway, now that I’ve done it, I feel bold enough to do it again and next in line may be the religious fanatic who bombards me (and everybody else on Facebook) with at least 5 Biblical quotes a day, 2 You Tube references to hell and brimstone ministries videos and 2 more references to miracles or damnations that is happening in the world. And I also have my eye on a few ‘celebs’, I have on my Facebook. There is one that posts a minimum of five times a day …. About what? Next show, next CD, next appearance etc and that was another one that I felt flattered enough to accept….! Hell no, enough…! You’re the weakest link ….. K’bi!

With my marketing background, I DO know what online networking and exposure is all about but hells bells darlings, there is a limit! Overexposure is well, to over kill. Something’s gonna go and in this case it is the expedient buggers with their ignorance about marketing and their insatiable urges to sell me their beliefs, wares, stores, stocks, books, products, their causes, answer stupid bloody questions about me or just plain be  obsessively compulsively seeking attention or online company to engage in absolutely rubbish banter. That said, braggers can stay! That’s the nice thing about Facebook … at least there is one place on earth where even the most insignificant can feel relevant … sigh …

Well, take that as my impending Monday bitchy whinge. I would LOVE to hear your views on what annoys you about your Facebook ‘friends’. Surely I cannot be the only one with whines …? And all this made me feel very self-righteous and pious and doing ironically precisely what all braggers do: boasting about what I did! Eish.

So to make it all normal again, here is a meatless Monday recipe for the purists and precious Orange County wives amongst us. This recipe kinda sums up how my ideal world would look:  humble and honest and made entirely from unpretentious ingredients, a recipe written for an active working mommy that wants to feed her family well and wisely but only has time for frozen veggies and instant sauce powder. That’s me. But if you have the time and inclination  or are socially or physical allergic to packaged goods, then go ahead and chop your own kilogram of fresh (not so …!) veggies and make your own béchamel sauce using the imported organic butter and milk you got while meandering leisurely yesterday at the ritzy farmer’s food market in the town square … and then take a picture and go post it on my Facebook with a note that you are taking orders … if for no other reason than to impress me … (Not ..!) :-)

Cheesy Veggie Cottage Pie

  • 15 ml olive oil
  • 1 large onion, finely chopped
  • 1 x 425 g can chopped tomato
  • 1 kg frozen mixed vegetables
  • sugar, salt and freshly ground black pepper
  • 2 packets instant creamy-garlic sauce powder
  • 400 ml water
  • 250 ml cheddar cheese, grated
  • 6 x 250 ml prepared and seasoned mashed potatoes
  • 45 ml butter, melted
  • 30 ml parsley, finely chopped

Heat the oil in a saucepan and add the onion. Sauté until translucent. Add the tomatoes and frozen vegetables. Season and bring to a boil. Cook rapidly without a lid, stirring often, until the liquids have reduced significantly.

Whisk the sauce powder into the water and add to the vegetables. Stir until thickened. Remove from heat, stir in the cheese and pour mixture into a greased baking dish.

Spoon the mashed potatoes on top and spread evenly over the vegetables. Mix together the melted butter and parsley and drizzle over the top. Bake for 10 minutes in the oven, preheated to 190ºC, before serving.

Serves 6 – 8

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12 responses to Monday moan …

  1. I have a huge problem with people who post oblique status updates like “what to do” I can almost see them typing with one hand whilst the back of the other hand is placed theatrically against their foreheads! FFS say what you damn well mean!
    I had a clear out a few weeks ago, some more might bite the dust just now.

    • Ja, sooooooo agreed! My favoriute one is ” …. Finally ….!” Second one “… What a day/event/achievement!” Shame, some folks DO need to throw out lines to make them appear more intriguing.

  2. I want to take photographs like you *sulks*

    • Chill, darling. I DONT take those photographs. I pay people to do them! In fact we have a major 3-day shoot coming up this week again. Tried to take lessons ….. eish, did not work out. There comes a time when one is simply too old to learn! So vee pay! Or buy! Lekker week to you. xxx

  3. My FB friends don’t irritate me at all but I made the decision right at the beginning that I will only have actual friends on my Facebook. I have a Simply Delicious page for people who would like to connect via my blog and I have twitter for the rest. I share pictures of my kids and my whereabouts on my FB so I don’t feel comfortable with people I don’t know being on there. And when one of them does do something I don’t like, I either tell them it irritates me (my good friends) or unfriend them (school friends, old colleagues, etc).

    • Very happy to hear you also unfriend. You are quite right about private stuff … and not selling things to our family and friends. I remember my ex husband and even a plain old x-boyfriend trying to sell life insurance and HERBALIFE to my family and friends. And that was YEARS ago! No wonder they are now married to other tannies! X

  4. I love love love this recipe, the day i learnt how to make cottage pie was heavenly for me and i like finding different ways to cook the things i love. thank thank youuuuuuu. I am going to the Eastern Cape tommorrow to visit my folks i cant wait to make this for them with some roasted chicken on the side *grin*


  5. Lovely recipe for Me the vegetarian-thanks for sharing. I have to agree with Sous Chef your pics are amazinggggggggggggg. With regards to FB i made the error of liking some stuff and then i was bombarded with all these messages-now i have unfriended them. Maybe these people who go “what a day” ” kids sick” etc etc, have no body to chat to and use the FB platform.

    • Hi dearest Usha, thanks for the pic comment, but all props to people who are MUCH better than me in taking them. I am incredibibly fortunate that my job IS to … work with amazing photographers! Can’t stand self-entitled people and FB has given them a beautiful platform to be self entitled. I just love your comment that they have nobody else to chat to … or who cares! XXX

  6. I am so over facebook. I’ve got one friend who is obsessed with running and makes snide remarks whenever I bake something and when she’s not talking about running it’s posts on her “gorgeous” children (brats that need a smack). I hardly bother with it anymore because the temptation to unfriend is so strong – and then I would have to have that awkward “why” conversation. Lovely recipe. Whatever works for you and who the hell is anyone to dictate how you choose to cook, live, breathe etc?

  7. Exactly, Rums. Nice day to you darling. xxx

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